I’d prepared for that phone call… I’d even rehearsed it in my head. I’d imagined what it’d be like if he died. So when it happened I felt like it was my fault. Like I’d somehow made it happen. My brother had severe substance misuse issues. very likely linked to…

5 tips for grieving a complicated relationship My Dad died 10 years ago today. We had a pretty complex relationship. My Dad a pretty complex person generally. As an adult I learnt that his childhood had been filled with a huge amount of trauma, and as a consequence quite a…

What does it mean to be ‘healed’ in an emotional sense. To me it means processing the pain and trauma, and allowing those scars to form. But also realising that it’ll always be part of your make up. If we break a bone, that bone will always show that’s it’s…

This evening, I’ve been clearing out my Gmail. Yes, I’m one of those people who has like 60,000 unread emails, and I’m honestly ok with it. …

I’m 8 and bit years down the track of grief, the memories that were once as crisp as a winter morning are now slightly foggy like an autumn sunrise. There are a few glistening dew drops as I recall what he once did, said and sounded like. My grief, once…

Grief is a strange thing. All of a sudden, a person is no longer there leaving a gaping person-shaped hole in your life. And you have to come to terms with it somehow, but MAN it’s a tricky process. Our thoughts and behaviours may be a little bit strange, and…

Peep this: You’ve recently been through a loss, bereavement or trauma and you are trying to hold it together. You are doing pretty well, you haven't completely lost your shit in a few hours, days or even months. Then a ‘Well-Meaning Busy Body’ (WMBB) or a ‘Person Lacking In Empathy’…

I’m going to talk about something weird here. When my brother Gee died suddenly, I was spun into a world of extreme trauma. Along with the usual recognisable symptoms of grief and bereavement I used to get a very strange one. I could see a person, perhaps on the tube…

The Man with the Big Heart & Thin Skin He wore his skin like an ill fitting suit, he was never comfortable and was always searching for something else. Something bigger or better to make him feel whole & loveable, never realising that he was an awesome human being that…